Sex is an essential part of creating life - not being a mom or dad.
No child is brought into the world without sex. It should be that having sex is an essential part of being a mom and dad, because that would mean that all the children who are brought up into this world are cared for by the same people that had children together.
Yes, by virtue of that creation, you are now given that title, but that does not mean that said kid is going to think that's what you are.
It should. Again, I'd be ashamed if I had a child out there and another man had the responsibility of caring for that child. It's my responsibility to be a dad and a father to the child.
Mom and Dad is a term that is applied to the primary (and sometimes there is a passel of them) caregiver in that kids life.
No, it isn't. The mom has always been the mom for the child. Are you saying that the primary caregiver will supercedes the mother who held the child in her womb for 9 months and gave birth to her? Yes children can and do have adoptive parents, but that does not make the adoptive parents the mom instead of the mother who gave birth to her child.
The problem is that the two functions should be one and together. The mother who gives birth to her child, should be the one who looks after her child, the mother in both senses of the word. To separate the two from each other is not how things ought to be. It should only be in extraordinary circumstances that the primary caregiver is not the mother and the father of the child.
And sex does having nothing to do with being a parent. Sex is an act that sometimes results in a child. That has nothing to do with teaching said child how to tie their shoes, brush their teeth, or reading them a bedtime story. Sex does not check the closet for monsters, does not teach ABC's or warn a child not to talk to strangers. Those are things parents do.
I'm a babysitter, that does all these things for a child. Does that mean if I spend more time with the children then their mother and father currently do that I would become the mother and the father? No. Yes, all these things are important, but conceiving the child is also important to. Why is this so hard for you garden gnome? It seems simple to me. If you have sex, and that sex results in pregnancy, then you are the mother and the father, no matter what. Other people may choose to look after the child, and become the only mother and father that the child knows, but that does not mean that the father and the mother of the child will stop being the mother and the father.
And sometimes the parents who check for monsters are not the same parents who did the wild thing to create said monster bait.
It should be.
You got a dream, you gotta protect it. People can't do something themselves, they wanna tell you that you can't do it. You want something? Go get it. Period.